Learning that is Ok to SLOOOWW down is SO vital in this process. They use this tactic to confuse (at least my husband does). I slow everything down now, my reactions to what he says, my speach, everything is slower.
But I STILL fail at times--he got me the other day when he started getting heated about something and then said his parents think I'm a "money grubber".
Wow--WHAT???? I got sucked in. I get along GREAT with his parents, have no idea if this is true or not, and think they'd probably be mortified if they knew he said that about them.
I started to argue/defend--yup, he went into a tirade.
