I suggested MC. My L suggested MC. My inlaws suggested MC (previously). But H does not want to go. Said he knows he made mistakes, me too, doesn't want to go rummaging into the past over and over and over again. There is some validity to that. He's not really the feeling or spiritual type either, so I don't think he'd gain much from it, really!!
And I think you're right, it's about what HE wants or doesn't want, because he is the MLCer, feels he's not gotten what HE wants in this life. Though ironically, he pretty much had it all.
I'm not entirely sure he can really acknowledge his shortcomings. I think he's towards the "N" personality type. I've never really felt that about him, but many (most if not all) friends and acquaintances have said so.
