Doing hard time on the MLC chain gang.

[MHL]

Hello Everyone,
I know I have fallen off the map and I am kicking my thread back up just to let everyone know that I am still alive and kicking.

My situation continues to improve in the form of baby steps almost everyday. The relationship with my wife is very friendly, there is almost no uneasy feelings between us, I do not initiate contact with her but do respond when she contacts me, it is usually about our S9. D13 still not talking to her but D13 seems to be improving with therapy.

We have a "date" tonight! granted we have not called it that and there is a purpose for the date. Ironically we are going to go over the legal separation document I got from her Lawyer last Friday. There are a few items out of the 26 page document that I would like changed but not many. I suggested last week that we get together to talk about it rather than going back and forth through the Lawyers. My wife suggested this Friday would be good night to get together.

Without going into details there are many indications that my W might want to "work on the M" and I think that she may just want to the the sep agreement done, she even had a reconciliation clause put in the agreement. According to my L this is a very good sign. I have absolutely zero expectations but I am treating tonight as a date given the emails we have exchanged today.

I suggested a least a couple of drinks before we go over the sep aggrement, spend 10 minute on the agreement, go out for dinner then see where the wind blows us????

She responded "sounds great !!!"

We went on to discuss the drink choices given the beautiful weather, we are debating Corona's or Mojito's (I think we will do both).

Still keeping the PMA up and still doing "Little Fridays", I can honestly say I have my confidence back and I feel good about myself. I will eventually get caught up on everyone, but it is true that when things do get going good you tend to somehow not have as much time to jump on the boards.

Patience has been the key so far and really just putting my W completely out of my mind and filling my life with my kids, my house, my job and my friends. I wish I could say that I have followed the DB playbook page by page but I have not all I can say is that when I back way off and stay friendly things get better. Not exactly sage advice but it is working in my sitch.