Juno!!! I like it - I didn't know who it was until I saw the sig
Yeah after sleeping on it I decided on the following response:
"I have the day off so we'll be doing some stuff down in San Diego today. I'm OK with trying out the new weekend schedule if it works out better for DD. -H"
Just told DD we're going to Legoland today, she looked more surprised than excited but I'm sure it'll change when we get there.
Good for you- I expect a full report! She is so lucky to have a Daddy like you- seriously.
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I know she really could be miserable. She's really good at hiding her feelings. She always puts up a front that's a happy cheery person and people love her but inside she's not happy. There's a reason she's been on medication since college.
Remember this when you're feeling like she has this full life yet you're alone. It sucks, but it probably really is better to be alone and content than be surrounded by people and lonely and miserable.
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I know, I want to make friends (and I'd LOVE to hang out with you guys too) but it's not that easy for me. Maybe with the new weekend schedule I might be able to get out a bit but where do you even meet/find people when you're not in college anymore lol
ROAD TRIP! LOL. Yes, I've struggled with this too. Here's where I've met some people:
- singing class- a bit outside my comfort zone- I act but don't often sing. I met my best friend there 6 years ago- I can still hardly believe it! - theatre- acting is a passion of mine. - soccer- I've played on a few teams. Haven't made best friends, but at the least, it's a few nice people I see once a week. Sometimes they invite me to play on other teams with them, which leads to more encounters with people. - neighbors- just one or two, but I had to break out of my comfort zone for this, too. I tend to keep to myself or ask "why would they want to talk to me?" I have a hard time meeting people and making friends, too. - my moms group- this hasn't yielded best friends either, but we have more social invitations (b-days) on the weekends than I had before kids! Again, at the least, it's people I have something in common with that fills a few hours on the weekends and we get to watch our kids have fun. We also have a monthly mom's night out that I organize- I volunteered to organize it so I was obligated to participate. It's something I really look forward to now. - parents of friends of my kid at school. Slowly, over time, I've met and talked to other parents of my D's friends. This winter I started emailing them about meeting at the park on Saturday mornings. We've had a few weekends where I got a chance to watch D play and talk to other parents. One mom is going through a separation herself, and we've ended up having dinner together with the kids after school a few times.
I swear I am shy and have a hard time meeting people, too. A lot of this has taken a long time- and I never knew (when I was entertaining all my fears about becoming a parent and "losing my life") that having D could yield to me meeting so many more people than I met before! Your D is an age where she could join a team (you could coach- the other parents have to talk to you, then), or something like brownies that encourages parent participation. It's worth a shot. Do you have any ideas that feel comfortable to you?
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
