In the morning, b4 the doctor's visit. I walk downstairs to see my hubby holding (gently) our youngest son's hands and son whining and quite upset. Hubby was stating you will tell me what you want for breakfast. You want eggs, toast, cereal, etc. Son was refusing to answer-that's how he is. It's been bothering my hubby that my son sometimes will not talk. SO I know he was doing this from a place of anxiety. I stated "what are you doing? Speech therapy?" (Hubby is a speech path). He stated no something else. I couldn't here what over son's whining was excalating. I exclaimed why would you do this to a sick kid who just woke up? Our son is super sick and always very groggy and quiet when he first wakes up. Well, hubby is annoyed at me. More than annoyed. Not too happy. I am frustrated- b/c really was this necessary? I thought it was the worst time to do therapy. This is not the first time we have diagreed over things like this....
First day of hospitalization. As my hubby was going to leave the room he stated "Can I hug you?" I wasn't expecting it and was honestly suprised but I knew he was emotional over everything. So as I hugged him I wanted to say ILY but zipped my lips. At that moment while hugging me he stated "I don't want to confuse you though". So as to let me know that his huggng me was in no way a sign that he cared for me. I said nothing but it ticked me off. Was that really necessary? Why did he do this? I was ready to just wave and say "bye" to him. Wasn't even expecting a hug. What is with this cr@p?
So next day, hubby can in to visit son and I at the hospital and I had asked him to bring in my son's nail clippers. We were on the "dirty" floor for infectious stuff and I wanted to trim my sons really supper longs nails so there would be less of a chance of catching some germs. Especially sonce son was allowed to play in the playroom. It was hard to cut son's nails and, although I can usually do it myself, I needed hubby's help to hold his arms. I got annoyed with hubby b/c I felt like he wasn't doing a very good job "hold him, hold him better" "I can usually do this myself- hold him better". I was definitely snippy. Well, hubby gets upset and my annoyance and refuses to help at all. I said "come on, please" "please I really want to get this done" But he refused. He states you don't get it and something to the effect of "You just don't get it, I don't like how you are so overbearing with the parenting".
Side note: This is typical of hubby. He one time refused to hold our youngest for about a month or so with out telling me why. (He was angry at me thinking I was overbearing with the parenting) So I had to put my youngest in a bouncy chair in the bathroom everytime I had to shower or things like that. It was really frustrating.
So I stated in frustration "Fine, just leave". He states "OK". I imediately state- "nevermind- please stay. Stay please." Well he is leaving and that's it. He will not stay. I asked several times and added lots of pleases. I state it's not about me. You should stay adn visit with your son. Don't penalize your son. I will leave. I'll go done the hall. I'll leave the room. Spend time iwht your son.
He walked out the door stating "I'm leaving you" I asked "Forever?" (b/c it sounded pretty final) Then he said "I hate you" and left.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
