I don't believe in the soulmate thing either. It gets thrown about when people don't want to admit, or work on their problems. This "no passion" speech and the "maybe you're not the one" follow on to that is standard wayward spouse gibberish. Look at the posts on here and what the WAS says. It's all the same BS. What is glaringly obvious to me is your emotional IQ is much higher than his.
Someone once said to me that you can't even have a conversation with someone who is 2 standard deviations outside your own IQ level. I think it becomes that way with emotional health. A mature person would not start blaming you for his boredom. A mature person would take responsibility for themselves in the M. As you have done ...Then there's H deflecting the blame, blaming you, manipulating, getting angry at everyone like a child.
So we are back to seeing some real action from our hero.
Don't forget how far you have come in your understanding of H and his behavior. From what you have said about the depression, the A, the manipulitive behavior etc. There are some serious issues to address and now he can avoid all of it by saying (and blaming you) "we just don't have the spark".
Do you need this(the excuse) so much or is the price so low(how you feel about YOU and your M) you're buying this crap? Think about this. Really think about it.
I agree with MC about going dark, as long as you've started MC, you need to see where this leads. I would still have your boundaries though. It might be helpful to look at the PIECING forum. There is definitely a process to putting your M back together.
You don't want to find yourself lost in Lost's door #3 (from a upthread)
It is so tempting to slide back into your old ways...
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
