But your challenge to this reasoning is a good one.. he won't limit himself, but few OW are satisfied having sex with soemone's WS unless they were told he was NOT sleeping with his wife anymore.. its a spin on the exposure theory.
Rather than exposing teh affair to his family and friends, you expose the husband cheating on his mistress to the mistress... its a bit different, but I agree most OW would not tolerate being lied to.. and yes I would think most men would like and say they aren't having sex with thier wife anymore.
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Interesting way to look at it, Allen. You always make me think!
I'd be in favor of this, if . . . IF . .. the betrayed spouse can view this dispassionately as a TACTIC, and use it to their advantage, without letting it get in the way of their detachment.
I think VERY few can actually pull that of, and most go all "melty man/woman" on ya, and lose their edge, in my experience. Puppy
After finding out about my H's A I was intimate with H asap - and then phoned OW to tell how recently it was we had been intimate. No 'meltiness' involved - cold determined steel......and proving a point.
Personally I found this a very good tactic.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
