Here's a link to the Oprah article. On the actual program, I know she was asking the direct question about whether they were prepared to die...don't see it on the list now though. Still think that's a good question:
And for what it's worth, though you're writing a letter, I think you should sit down and have a face to face conversation. It's easier to blow off the questions if you never have to respond out loud to someone.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!