very true, and since it's hard to be honest because in doing so we are going to be hurting the other person's feelings, we don't want to feel the guilt associated with this process because that hurts too, so it's easier to lie and have an affair secretly.
Yep -- that's the thought process, alright. And it's WRONG.
Puppy
That 'thought' process makes my head spin. I cannot relate to that at all.
I guess if you haven't adopted 'keeping your word' as a value, then you wouldn't feel guilty breaking your vow to your spouse, as long as your spouse doesn't know.
I would imagine that would result in a loss of personal integrity and thus, self esteem however. I could only feel good about me if I left a marriage that wasn't working before I got involved with someone else.
