I dunno PDT, I think his wife has clinical depression. I think a lot of the erratic hehaviuor is from depression here, particularly the cyncial negative commentary.
I don't know if you've had to deal with that, but getting aggressive doesn't impreove that situation.
Guess now it's MY day for people inferring something I never stated.
I never said to be "aggressive." I suggested that he maintain BOUNDARIES -- an opinion that I stand by even if it should turn out that his wife is clinically depressed (and I happen to think she is).
Too much of modern psychology/psychiatry, in my opinion, is just so much "excusing poor behavior." I even started a thread on this recently, after George Will wrote a really good column about it.