I'll check out Hope4Us, thanks for being there Puppy.
I think the principle here that worked is that his wife lacked EMPATHY. So he would have to call her out when she went too far, and said something that was just plain hurtful or rude or disrespectful, while at the same time continuing his Job-like patience at DBing and piecing.
His wife, as I recall, responded very well to this. In almost every instance, she would immediately "make nice" to him after he called her on her b.s.
:I like that! Or, "What can we do to help the situation?"
Exactly, I was going to throw in something of a "team" effort, that's how (x)W and I have been tackling financial issues. Whenever one of us "messes" up at a low moment and says "I'm not sure what to do" the other is quick to correct and say, "no, We're not sure what to do", then smile it off and and the crrected one will always state, "yeah, we always make it through somehow"
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Thank you dday, any advice for coming back to the house after work, leave for vacation tomorrow. Just db it I guess. It has been nearly 24 hours from that little brief sitch, had 3 boys over to spend the night with our two sons, and I went to bed early, without saying too much because I was still furious.
Ages 12 and 9. I work about 50 hours a week during the day, then I research and catch up on emails at night at home about 3 more hours a week.
She goes to some appointments and does some samples for people during the day, I would estimate it to be about 5 hours a week since the beginning of this year. That is probably pretty high, no way she has worked 75 hours this year.
I do almost all of the yard work, take out the trash and recycle, I make the bed 90% of the time, and I do the dishes 50% of the time. She does all of the laundry, most of the hard cleaning (showers, toilets, dusting) all though I help on the weekends with the floors and vacuuming and such. We split the cooking pretty much, as I like to cook.
She is very good at buying things though, all of the purchases are needs not wants as she puts it, she spends a lot of time at Target and Wal Mart. Takes the dry cleaning, normal errands and takes the kids to their many activities. drums, guitars, dodgeball(thats right), baseball etc. buys the gifts for the 100's of birthdays that the kids go to, etc...
