Robx, I agree that vows are not a blank cheque or a person's property title. The grass is only greener where you water it.
But if you can commit, why bother getting married? An affair is walking away, leaving marriage by the back door. Even if you are so upset with your marriage you should be upfront.
Hearing someone say she doesn't want to be married anymore is hard but at least is honest. An affair will never be.
Amen.
very true, and since it's hard to be honest because in doing so we are going to be hurting the other person's feelings, we don't want to feel the guilt associated with this process because that hurts too, so it's easier to lie and have an affair secretly. Again self-preservation is human nature, that's reality, that's why you see this happening as often as it does. Again these aren't my rules, this is just an observation of reality.
