Possible EA - sitting on the edge

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Actually, this was my exact post:

1. How did she find the recorder, unless she went looking for it?

2. Who goes looking for a recorder, UNLESS they are guilty?

Still applies.

Puppy

[BWP]

Puppy, I think you are right. I'm convinced that in the least their is an EA going on. I've seen the cell phone bills and the secrets with the texts and where she's been going.

I think I'm going to build a plan around the bluff to try and end this thing. I'm getting to a point which makes me think I've moved on and I don't want that. I want my M to remain in tact.

I initially thought that I would expose to OM, W BF and IL and then W. Thoughts on this?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I initially thought that I would expose to OM, W BF and IL and then W. Thoughts on this?

Please spell this out; this is too important to get wrong. (For example, by "OM, W..." I assume you mean "Other man's wife?")

Please clarify.

thanks,

Puppy

[BWP]

Sorry Puppy, not clear

1 OM - he's not married - something clear but not threatening
2 Wife's Best Friend - marriage friendly
3 In laws - they are being rallied against me now by W but normally marriage friendly
4 W

Not sure where to bring in my parents

I took D for a walk right after I posted and saw W leaving in her car on my way back. 5 minutes later MIL calls and its W on the phone I handed the phone to D. She tells D where she is and hangs up.

My family is on there way here for Good Friday

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I would expose to your wife's parents and her best friend.

I would avoid OM -- it only elevates him in importance.

Yes, absolutely, confront your wife, and use the "I know all about it" line.

Puppy

[BWP]

Okay thanks Puppy, what do you think about the order? I appreciate your advice. Is it wife's parents and best friend and W all at the same time or around the same time?

I liked your script, I'll stick to it as close as I can

[BWP]

Need some advice on consequences around the boundary. We live in a jurisdiction where both have equal right to the marital home. I can't make her leave. Is there some other consequence which helps ensure the boundary is serious?

W still hasn't come home and by strange coincidence BIL showed up from a bike ride to have a beer. Quite pleasant but again a bit unusual

[BWP]

W still not home. I had my entire family here asking me where is W. I didn't expose as their were plenty of children plus D.

Still thinking through the plan

[BWP]

I had hoped to have this conversation tonight but W called from MIL and is not coming home.

Any thoughts on this? Has she just decided to move on and is taking her first step or is this her way of being more deceitful?

[jasper67]

i wouldnt get in your head yet...just dont pursue right now...my W spent many nights out and came back before she left for real