Robx, I agree that vows are not a blank cheque or a person's property title. The grass is only greener where you water it.
But if you can commit, why bother getting married? An affair is walking away, leaving marriage by the back door. Even if you are so upset with your marriage you should be upfront.
Hearing someone say she doesn't want to be married anymore is hard but at least is honest. An affair will never be.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *