New Year... New Life!

[sandycay]

Update from the lawyers office

Maybe by next week. Seems there was a snafu with one of the retirements. STBXH was suppose to have the kids last weekend and the S only lasted one night.

I also got a text from donkey on friday night, staying:

"You could have told me the kids knew about FFG. I've been living in solitidue Sandy. The reason for the agression and so much frustration. Sorry.... but I have been trying to play by all the so called rules for a long time. I just would have appreciated not having to be alone for this long. But it's not your fault"

So many crazy things here.. 1st ~ he hasn;t been alone, he's been chasing skirt since before he left here. 2nd~ You never ask a darn thing about me, or I would have gladly told you. 3rd~ if you ever got your children and gave me a break they probably woulnd't have met him as soon as they did, but that's the way the cookie crumbles. This is a great relationship, and I am not going to spend time away from my kids to pursue it. I will not lie to my children.

Then he dropped some paper work off the other night and sent a text 10 minutes later:

Just so you know.... I'd have more respect for you and him if you didn't hide. It's silly. And it doesn't speak well of either of you."

Now, he was not here so I text back:

Whose hiding? Don't assume anything ..he's with his children at his home. It's silly that you think these thoughts... doesn't speak well of you."

Oh and by sat am he told our D and her friend to meet a lady that he's known for 2 weeks. S wouldn't stay the whole weekend I had to go pick him up Saturday night at 9pm, FFG was with me as we were out to dinner but donkey didn't come to the car to meet him.

Out of the blue Donkey called kids to go out on Wed night and daughter refused.... fiegning sick stomach but S went.

Seems, although donkey has been told the kids are on spring break and I am not , that he FORGOT (although, he's been told by email, text, verbal)Thanks for helping entertain the kids this week.

Last Wednesday night, I ruptured my tendon in my calf muscle. Donkey called while I was being taken to the ER, I told him what was going on. No offer to get the kids, nothing. I just sent a text to FFG letting him know that I would be out of pocket and what was going on (he was on shift), he calls and said "I'm out of here in 10 mins, your going to be in pain and need some help"

At first, I was thinking "Nah, I can do it myself, but within abourt 30 min, I didn't care who did what... just bring on the drugs" The kids were worried about me and he told them he would stay up and keep my leg propped and iced and with the drugs and all after being up till about 4am.. I woke up with my kids sent off to school with a cooked breakfast and homemade lunches. So nice. He has taken great care of me and the kids during this. My S was asking FFG "how do you get my mom to sit down, she's so stubborn about doing stuff". They were joking and laughing at my expense. It was nice that he took time off to help me and the kids.

I can remember holding a 9 month old baby with a 3 year old strapped to my leg and throwing up and asking for donkey to come home... he chose to not do it, when he could have. Things you forget about, I suppose.

Back to the big D..... possibly next week. But then again, I've been hearing that since the end of Feb.