As far as DBing goes, when something that was working no longer works then I should try something different... I want to make sure when all is said and done I did everything and tried everything. One thing I have not tried yet is to give her even more space by staying some place else for a few days and what for her response but giving our history I am not sue if it will help any
I'm suggesting that her crappy, disrespectful behavior toward you (this constantly picking up your phone and checking it) continues because you allow it to. Also the passive-aggressive stuff (joking with you one moment, going totally b*tchy on you the next).
She will begin to respect you once you begin to respect yourself -- no sooner.
Do you REALLY think this is "working"?? By what definition do you think it is working?