if we're talking about an actual physiological change in the body, why does it matter what "state" the WAS is in? If you kill the attraction with your spouse to the point where they are no longer attracted to you and someone else comes along and flips those attraction switches, you're as much to blame on the situation as the "love chemicals", don't expect those marriage vows to keep her in line. If the number of threads on these forums with WAW's is any indication, those words have little value and staying power.
Um, isn't that kind of where self-restraint, and commitment come in Rob?
Sorry, I call "bullchit" on this one. Being all hopped up on their affair PEAs doesn't excuse the WAS from their behavior, and I'm almost certain that's not what you're trying to say anyway.
Yes, a betrayed spouse is going to have to address their own issues that may have led to killed attraction between them and their wayward spouse. But the actively cheating spouse isn't going to respond to them while they're still having their affair.
