I apologize if this is a silly question. I understand there are varying degrees of "dimness" and "darkness". I see these terms used a lot here, but what are the guidelines? Initiate no contact? Don't respond to their contact?

I think I need a better understanding of how this works. Thanks in advance for any info.


M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years