No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

What I wouldn't give to use the Jedi mind trick on our WASs.

"You will dump the loser you are going out with"
"You will apologize and be truly remorseful for what you have done"
"You will satisfy any and all needs of your spouse"

One can only dream.

[MrBond]

Didn't get a chance to talk to W much tonight. I do feel myself wanting to detach more and not see her. To connect or not connect. That is the question. I think I'm going to pull back more on communication and see if she starts to reach out.

[MrBond]

To my DB "family".

I wanted to wish all of you a very Happy Easter. Easter is a time of forgiveness, rebirth and new beginnings.

Whether you're religious or not, regardless of where you are in your sitches, I hope you get all three.

Peace

[sandi2]

Ahhh, the same to you, sweetie.

[MrBond]

Thanks sandi.

I was wondering what you thought of the positives in my sitch lately. Are these signs of her coming out of her fog? The time she introduced me as her 'husband' to her friend last week was the first time she's called me that in two years.

[TooLateForMe]

Personally, I'm not expecting an end to my w's fog. Not because it won't happen, but by clinging I'm not focusing on me and the now. It's hard.

[sandi2]

I was wondering what you thought of the positives in my sitch lately. Are these signs of her coming out of her fog? The time she introduced me as her 'husband' to her friend last week was the first time she's called me that in two years.

It sure does look promising! I believe as long as she had to work everyday with OM that she couldn't get out of that darn fog, but look at how quickly she started making little positive steps as soon as he left. I thought she might get into a funk afterwards, you know...the grieving stuff, but it looks like she is doing a lot better.

I know it must be hard not to push her to make her go faster, but just try to maintain your patience b/c you are seeing her testing the waters, right?

[Wildaces81]

Mr. B, just droppin in seeing how your doing.

Is the force still strong with you?

[sandi2]

How was Easter weekend?

[MrBond]

Easter was fine. I could see she was retreating into herself again. She did the same this morning when I saw her. I understand that this cycling continues on for awhile.

We were supposed to go to Mass, but I had gotten up late and we missed the service. She was pretty pissed about that and gave me the "silent" treatment. I just brushed it off. We went straight to our brunch at which she kept quiet at.

I apologized at the brunch for missing Mass and she blew it off. We later had an egg hunt at our house which was fun and she stayed until dinner.

So I count the weekend as a bit of a negative. There was a point where I was asking myself why I keep putting up with this, but then I had to bring myself to that place where I would tell myself that it's her choice to be unhappy, not mine.

So should I have told her I wasn't going to put up with her attitude? Should I have stood up to her?

I need a jedi mind trick right now.