Ok you wrote it I read it. Now rip it up and throw it away. Your H is asking for space. You are not giving it to him. That is why he is mad at you. FM has asked you to detach. I think you should do a 180 and go NC. This will be hard for you. But you need to do it for YOU. Until you do this you will continue to get hurt.
You will not be able to please your WH! Stop trying. If you want to save your marriage DB and do a 180!!!!!! Detach/NC
