How do I act?

[tbart01]

it's pretty sad that all the things you say you want your H to be is exactly what my W has. Most woman say they want a person like that, but here my W is willing to give that up.

I like your attitude though, and you're absolutely right. you need to look it as positive as you possibly can.

Your priorities and your h priorities are in two different places right now. I know exactly what that's like, because my w and I have two different priorities now.

You/we need to decide what's important for ourselves, because our spouses are currently riding a different train. In my case my kids and i are the priority for me. My W will say it's the kids,
but it's clearly herself. I think your H has the same priority, and that's him.

You sound a lot less lost than you used to, and I hope you keep that focus. I'm hoping your future is bright an positive.