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I had the kids tonight. I have so much fun being with them. They have the week off and my W works for the school system so she has the same schedule as our kids. I took a few days for her so she could go away with her mom for her bday.

After work I met her and the kids at the house to swap them. She got ready to go out to dinner with her friends to celebrate her bday. I took the kids to the park then we got some dinner.

We wrapped the bday present from the kids and they both made her a birthday card.

At around 8pm I texted my W and told her she could come get the kids tomorrow morning at 8am rather than 7am. She thanked me and said she was having a good time with her friends.

I'm not sure what my motive was for doing that. Looking back I'm questioning it. Maybe I shouldn't have and just let her deal with coming early because I imagine she was drinking pretty good tonight.

It felt like the thing to do when I did it. I've been really steering away from the 'if I do a, then hopefully b will happen' thinking, but I often wonder if I'm fooling myself at times.

I did what I did. I'm trying to find the balance of being who I am and drawing boundaries for the interactions I'm having with her. I need to clarify the boundaries more. I think that would take care of questions like these.