She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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I have a question that I really don't understand.

How can someone just starting being so mean and hateful. My W has been talking to all her old friends from before we were married. She's been talking, texting, and Facebooking comments to these people. It's almost like she's in high school again.

My W did the same thing. It's like she reverted and is reaching back to capture something from her youth. That's why I think there's an MLC in my sitch also.

Her H is in Afghanistan and she can't call, email or post anything on Facebook to me. How can she just reject me like this. How do they lose there mind like this?

I'm not sure there's an answer to why. I would guess they feel lost and are trying to find some semblance of balance.

I'm finding myself rejected and neglected, like most of us do at this point. I don't want to let this bother me like it is, but I can't help it. I haven't hurt this woman to cause this, but in her mind I've done something.

You better take another look at this - I haven't hurt this woman to cause this...

Obviously in her mind you have done something. I'm sure she's done things to you to help with the deterioration of the marriage. You can't do anything about her taking responsibility for her share, but you can take responsibility for your share and fix that.

There's one person in particular to that she's talking to that I want to ask her about. The person that she sen't the post card to a few weeks back. I still wonder what her intentions are with this. I really want to question her about this relationship. Can I?

Don't confront unless you have some evidence of inappropriate behavior which you have decided on a boundary with. Also, she will just lie to you if her intentions are less than honorable, so confronting her without any evidence will really do nothing for you.