She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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mudpuppy - No you don't swallow your pride. You out her. You go to the neighbor and you confront him. First make sure you have evidence to back it up.

Even without any evidence I would go over and confront the neighbor. I'd ask him to clarify why my W is coming over his house on a daily basis.

Obviously if your W is having a PA with your neighbor and making no efforts to hide if from you, then she has completely lost respect for you.

Throw her out of the house. Show her you won't stand to be disrespected that way.

At least you'll hold onto your dignity and self respect.