Moving on with my life #2

[25yearsmlc]

Exh is struggling financially. Not really his fault.

It's completely his fault. No one forced him to work there or to NOT get a job elsewhere OR to not have two jobs. Good grief, he has enough kids and former spouses to justify 3 jobs. Why make excuses for him? WHat are you doing?

The company he works for (his exfil) is very slow. He has been getting half the hours he used to. He is stressed and I can see it.
What's new? When was he normal in the time you've been here? (Never).

The next question will be for me to reduce his CS. Obviously not going to. He isn't happy how things are going there. Was talking about quitting and working for his brother.

So have him do it already...
He is being strange. No more sexual advances but is being really nice. Not sure the motive yet.
WTH? Why do you give a crap what this moron does? I would spend ZERO time and energy noticing what he does and even less time questioning his motive.
Who cares? OMG S2, obviously you are still so dependent on him and yet you know he's a loser with a capital L.....you have to GAL for real or this pathetic excuse for a man will keep on occupying your time and energy.

Honey there's very little I can do or say to help you if this is the mentality you are going to have. He's bad news.

I have no idea what you are talking about when you refer vaguely to some sort of improvement on his end. Oh, you mean he and the MGF are not seeing each other? How on earth does that effect you? Oh he has empty time on his hands so he visits his ex w and flirts with her sexually. And you engage him on it. And why say it doesn't offend you? IT SHOULD OFFEND YOU b/c you're not a ho. He did nothing FOR YOU or YOUR R, or for his r's with the kids. A woman broke up with him! OR he broke up with her b/c she had an expectation of him. Either way, what the heck do you care?? And why do you see that as a sign of anything but how desparate and terrified HE is, of being alone with his horrid self?? (b/c He visits the kids more? NOT As much as he's allowed but more than the 10% he WAS doing when he had a sex partner....oh...gee that IS impressive.)

And you're joining him in that deseparate fear of being alone!! As if being alone is the worst thing in the world. Being alone is NOT the worst thing in the world--- wishing you were alone, IS.

Today when he came by to finish up babys insurance forms baby was happy to see him. She is getting used to him coming more often a......He sent a text 30 seconds later saying 'that makes me sad'...I jsut said me to exh, me too!

What a blow it!

blah blah blah more of the same...when will it end? When you end it. No sooner. ALL UP TO YOU
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