Need a Plan for My Marriage

[LSG]

I am here to save my marriage, and it seems like everything is more distant than ever. Is that way it is suppore to work. She does not talk to me or communicate with me at all these days. It seems that she withdrawing more and more. Is there something else I shoud do to change things. I don't know if I gaining her respect or just pissing her off. Just need to know what my next more should be. Is exposing the OM to OMW a good thing? I feel the need to do it.

[LSG]

I want my family back as a family and this OM to take care his own family. I will whatever it takes to save my marriage and not lose myself in this mess.

[luvless]

(((LSG))))

Her being distant as ever sounds about normal. I'm in the same boat. My H is the same way.

I think you should expose to omw but make sure you have the proper proof.

Keep detaching it's all you can do. She is moving away so you pull away too. Pursuing does you no good at this point.

I'm with you L - be strong.

[LSG]

Hi luvless,

Thanks for the response.

I am trying to be strong.

[LSG]

It is so weird to have less and less communication with cheating wife. She says that this is no way to live, but she continues to cheat and doing nothing about it. She blames me for the problems in the relationship while I will accept some blame, I will not accept blame for the affair or not discussing what was wrong. I have always been open to talking anytime with her.

It is just so difficult to deal with going from showing my affection to her to nothing. I will never get use to this.

I guess this is the way it is.

[LSG]

Today was a good day. I had a phone interview, and now I am moving on to another interview next week. She seems to think that I am perfect for the job, and I hope the hiring manager will too. I am very confident that he will. I am very confident that I will get the position.

This one is for me and no one else!

[LSG]

It does not feel normal to have a W not even say a simple good night. It is interesting that she buys me sweets along with the kids. Her mom called, and I do not answer the phone because I do not want to talk to her when she is condoning her daughter's behavior. Her mother did at the end of the message ask how I was doing. I am surprised since what she said about me to my daughter during Christmas vacation. I have been mad as hell at her ever since to discuss this with my daughter. Now my daughter does not want to talk or see her too much. It is very disappointing to me. My W just sat there according to my daughter and said nothing. I did not know about this until recently because I do not discuss the situation with her unless she asks me a question.

My W's mother was cheated on by her father but they stayed together after her father told her mother. I know it is her mother, but I would think that she would tell what she is doing is not right.

[LSG]

Hi friends,

I am wondering why my wife and her mother are being a little nicer to me. It is very unusal. I wonder if my attitude towards divorce and not backing down has made them wonder where I stand to gain. She is not as confident it seems as before. I am very quiet, and I do not give anyting away about what I am thinking.

Let me have some feedback on previous post please!

[Steve McQueen]

I want my family back as a family and this OM to take care his own family. I will whatever it takes to save my marriage and not lose myself in this mess.

you have to lose yourself to redefine yourself.

[LSG]

Hi Steve,

How are you doing? It is nice to hear from you.

I really understand what you mean. It is true because I feel that I am becoming a different person from this whole situation. I am more focused on my needs lately such as the job. It does not mean that I do not care about other's needs too. I have to do what is best for me and hope that it will be good for my family too.

Thanks so much for making me fully understand that I need to continue on the path I am now following.

I hope to hear from you again when you have time.


Thank you!!!