WAW and the law of attraction

[FormelyknownasF]

I agree that working too much was a big factor for bringing the relationship to this. Also intimacy problems.

I do have to say, I was upfront with my W about this. She had been unemployed for 1 year. I told her, listen, things are going to be crazy at work and I need to do this if we want to stay in this country. She was terrified of going back. She said she'd understand and support this.

And about the attraction. Of course, that's a big thing. But works both ways don't you think? She made an effort to look better only when she went on holiday visiting family and old friends. OF COURSE It worked. She looked great but she hardly ever made that effort for the past 12 months for me. She wouldn't even wax her legs.

Like I was saying to Gnosis the other day. My case is chain reaction with all the wrong elements combined. It's like one of those big train crashes documentaries. I can now see how exactly how it happened and how so many things contributed to make this the "perfect" mess.

The working hours, the marriage problems, the Law of Attraction telling my wife "if it makes you feel happy, do it", the OM being her teenage years fantasy, my W's adulterous BF coaching my wife and of course me who hasn't worked in the relationship as hard as he should have.

Still, before we separated I asked her directly if she wanted us to see other people, she said NO. Tears in her eyes. NO. Ok? And she not only did that the minute I left, she chose a married man with two children. That's a decision I didn't make. I assume my responsibility for everything else, not for this. That's entirely hers.

And that's why RIGHT NOW, I feel so angry. Because I realize now, how calculating she's been in the past month. This is not a dumb teenager in love, this is a woman who took advantage of every effort I made in the past 2 months. No consideration whatsoever. She has been infinitely selfish.