W said she is so miserable. "I go to bed miserable hoping the day would end, then I wake up and I am miserable again." I say "I give you space and object to nothing, how do I make you miserable" W says "Did I say you? stop putting words in my mouth..." she went on to attack me and so I said (regretfully) if it is bad "there is the door" (DOH!! My emotions got the best of me)
You need to stop taking everything so personally. She is telling you here that she is miserable. Not that the marriage is miserable. She is miserable. This could be any number of things. It could be depression. It could be a hormonal imbalance. I don't see her accusing you of anything here. But you fly off the handle and tell her to leave. Where is the connection? Where is the understanding? Where is the husband who wants to help her? It is not all about you.
