if we're talking about an actual physiological change in the body, why does it matter what "state" the WAS is in? If you kill the attraction with your spouse to the point where they are no longer attracted to you and someone else comes along and flips those attraction switches, you're as much to blame on the situation as the "love chemicals", don't expect those marriage vows to keep her in line.
I'm not sure about you, but his is not my experience. I do agree that maintaining yourself is important and respectful to your marriage. But there is more to love and marriage than just chemical attraction, my friend. If it was as simple as flipping a switch to be with someone, would your respect and trust them enough to marry them?
Stay positive.
Alot of what I've learned is from people who believe just that, they can't trust someone enough to marry them. Cheating, infidelity, affairs: physical & emotional, etc. etc. etc. are happening and not just happening, they are the rule not the exception. Long marriages are the exception not the rule. Take a peek at the forums, this is just a taste of what's happening out there. What you call love are in actuality, those "love chemicals", I'm not saying you can't forge a strong bond, an incredible friendship, etc. But how many people are doing that nowadays? How many people are falling into the trap of working more at work, and working less on making a relationship great at home? So what starts out beautiful and great eventually decays into something ugly and dysfunctional with both partners wanting more but not willing to invest in more, both believe that the other partner should be doing more. So what happens when you get attention from an attractive person that you haven't rec'd in a long time from your own spouse? You start to remember how good it felt to be wanted, to be sought after, to be appreciated, to receive affection - those are some pretty powerful motivators for people to look outside their marriage to fulfill those needs/wants.
All I'm saying is observe reality, reality doesn't lie regardless of how distasteful the truth might be, it's still the truth.
If you believe that two people will be held together just because of a marriage certificate and vows exchanged during the wedding ceremony, you are wrong - the fact that this site exists proves this point.
