SR, figure out what you're trying to project before you buy clothing. It's tricky, but worth spending a bit of time on. Think of it as an exercise in self-discovery. If you know what look you're going for, others can help you with sourcing. The coolest male dresser I know is in his late 60s . It's all about confidence and being yourself (and having a clue about how to dress ). I struggle with clothing too. I've learned it's better to have a very small but awesome wardrobe. A great tshirt that costs $60 is a better deal than 3 lame $20 tshirts. With clothing it's all about cost-per-wear. Something that costs a lot that you wear a lot is actually a good deal. Make sure things like jeans and tshirts have a GREAT fit.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
SR, figure out what you're trying to project before you buy clothing. It's tricky, but worth spending a bit of time on.
Trying to project cool and confident. And of course I'm bringing sexy back! LOL
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The coolest male dresser I know is in his late 60s.
Interesting, can you explain why please?
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A great tshirt that costs $60 is a better deal than 3 lame $20 tshirts.
I hear you but are they really 3x better? prints are prints...sure the thread count might be higher but that's details.
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Make sure things like jeans and tshirts have a GREAT fit.
And you hit the nail on the head. Fitting is so important and it's hard to find the generic fitting stuff that's supposed to fit the average person/body type.
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Romeo - You aren't broke if you're buying cars like that. Buck up for the threads! LoL The t's are hot, though. Here are the jeans... Nice!
Mind, do you like those t's because of the print on them or quality? I like those jeans too...thanks!
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SR, figure out what you're trying to project before you buy clothing. It's tricky, but worth spending a bit of time on.
Trying to project cool and confident. And of course I'm bringing sexy back! LOL
Not specific enough
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
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The coolest male dresser I know is in his late 60s.
Interesting, can you explain why please?
He wears want he wants with a lot of confidence. He appears ageless in how he dresses. Whatever he wears, it just looks "right" on him...effortless. Effortless is a state of mind and clothing can be an extension of that.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
You will not find a better shopper in these parts... LOL LOL TRUST me, the t's are amazing. The women won't be able to keep their hands off of you once they feel them. They are worth every penny. You don't have to buy multiples. Buy one and wear it around for awhile. There are The Buckle stores all over, but i just looked. There are only three in the entire state of CA! Wow.
Buy the Affliction t's. They will bring sexy back.
Yea, the jeans are nice. They shrink in length though. Warning... My H is 5'11 and ~ 178, and he wears a 33x32 if that helps. Can't wear heels, though. LOL J/K
Flo has a great point in what you're trying to project... and buying quality pieces. Cool, Confident, and Sexy back... We're in w/the above. I shop for H a lot... I'll see what other common thread there is in brands. I know he also likes Seven (For Mankind) jeans, but I don't love them on him. He looks a little like he's wearing skinny jeans in them! LoL And, as far as dress shirts... he loveslovesloves Robert Graham and Banana Republic... When I say dress shirts, I mean out for dinner dress shirts, not work.
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After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
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OK guys I need some input. So STBXW just sent me this email:
DD needs a couple things for school tomorrow-pack a lunch and an Easter basket for their egg hunt. If you don't have lunch stuff, let me know tonight and I can drop off a lunch for her tomorrow am.
I was also thinking about the schedule and wondering if we can switch to one where we have her the whole weekend and then do two and two from m-th. I scratched it out for April and we can keep two on two off until thu then you keep her fri-sun then me m-t, you w-th then me fri-sun etc. Let me know what you think.
DD also has 2 more pages of homework to finish tonight and I put the water bill in her homework folder for you.
Hmm...so I didn't know about the easter egg hunt at school and I was going to take her to legoland tomorrow. When I picked her up from school today I asked the teacher about the egg hunt and she said it'll probably be like a 5min thing and lunch wise they had one last Fri too so it's no big deal. She said she'd be happy to save the eggs for her. So I'm thinking of still taking DD to legoland. I have two options, don't reply to her email tonight or tomorrow or reply saying 'I have tomorrow off so DD and I will be spending some time in San Diego'
As for the schedule...I think she's lining things up for her own convenience or how the other family that lives their has that arrangement. So I was thinking of replying with 'The current arrangement works for me but I'm open to trying the new schedule if I understand how it's better?' Since I only have the weekends to do all the house chores, shopping etc I like a day or so to do them and still see DD. It doesn't matter all that much to her if she wants to see DD whenever she can and does stop by her school sometimes even on the days I have her.
Water bill...hmmm I thought the money I've been giving her was partly to cover the utilities that have always been in her name. So I have a couple of options here. one I can tell her that or two just pay the bill or switch the names. And/or optionally stopy paying her the monthly allowance check?
I'm kinda pissed off at STBXW today so I need some suggestions guys.
Also as an aside I noticed DD was wearing a shirt with a big heart in the middle that says stuff like 'my dad is awesome, I love my dad etc' - I asked if DD picked it out, she said no mommy did...weird.
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It looks like you're looking for concrete responses, just like I do. Here's my opinion:
I would reply saying 'I have tomorrow off so DD and I will be spending some time in San Diego'. If you think it will trigger some kind of upset or anger, maybe send it tomorrow AM instead. You're taking her out of school, then? Is that something normally you and W would discuss first?
I like this response: 'Actually, the current schedule works really well for me [I might even thrown in reasons it works well for D6, too, if you have any]. Is there a particular reason you want to change it?'
Why are you paying a water bill for a house you don't live in when you have your own utilities to pay? Does she work? If she does, I'd let her know it's appropriate for her to pay it. If you've already been giving her money for the util., I'd send her an email saying "that money I've given you should cover this, per our arrangement. If you need to discuss a different arrangement, let me know." or something like that. short and to the point.
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Also as an aside I noticed DD was wearing a shirt with a big heart in the middle that says stuff like 'my dad is awesome, I love my dad etc' - I asked if DD picked it out, she said no mommy did...weird.
Maybe she went to the same 'mixed messages' seminar my H seems to have gone to over the weekend
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
She's been unemployed for over a year and I don't think she's found anything yet. I still live in our 'together house' and she moved out. The utility bill is for the 'together house' because the utilities have been in her name and I just wrote her a check every month (since she got unemployed) to cover the utilities and just some allowance money for her in addition to her unemployment checks.
Actually, the shirt is old but she bought it last time. I just think it was more than a coincidence that she DD didn't pick her clothes for school this time and wife chose that shirt. I'm not going to think about it too much even on good days I never know what she's thinking inside.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
The women won't be able to keep their hands off of you once they feel them. They are worth every penny.
You're making a broad assumption that women will actually be close enough to them to feel them
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Flo has a great point in what you're trying to project... and buying quality pieces. Cool, Confident, and Sexy back... We're in w/the above. I shop for H a lot... I'll see what other common thread there is in brands. I know he also likes Seven (For Mankind) jeans, but I don't love them on him. He looks a little like he's wearing skinny jeans in them! LoL And, as far as dress shirts... he loveslovesloves Robert Graham and Banana Republic... When I say dress shirts, I mean out for dinner dress shirts, not work.
I don't care what he loves, question is do you love them just as much? lol
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
okay, since she's getting YOUR bill, but you've been giving her money to pay it, why not just say, I got the water bill, I will go ahead and get that put in my name and just pay directly instead of giving you the money. I am assuming the money I sent you for that bill will be applied towards next month.
idk. I'm actually pretty tired.
sorry it's been so long that I've been gone. needed a break from here for a while. except it's always hard to catch back up with everyone.
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. It's all about confidence and being yourself (and having a clue about how to dress 
). I struggle with clothing too. I've learned it's better to have a very small but awesome wardrobe. A great tshirt that costs $60 is a better deal than 3 lame $20 tshirts. With clothing it's all about cost-per-wear. Something that costs a lot that you wear a lot is actually a good deal. Make sure things like jeans and tshirts have a GREAT fit.
