Sorry, didn't mean to offend anyone who is blonde! The loud mouthed brassy part was mainly a reference to my mother-in-law!!
Thanks for your reply. Yes, I know I come to this unclean. You can't be married for over 32 years and not have done a lot wrong. God is showing me daily how/what I need to clean up in my life. Most of the major things I have been busy fixing/changing about myself. And my h knows about all of that. Of course, his response was too little, too late.
The hardest thing for me to accept is that he planned all of this while I was asking him to go to marriage counseling. He never said a word to me, he just did it all behind my back and then dropped the big bomb by the way he had the papers served. However, I realize 2 things now from that. The 1st one is that I would have never put any blame on myself at all if I hadn't been shaken to the core. That bomb drop did that. And the 2nd thing is that this has always been a pattern with my h. He has always been afraid to tell me things. Whenever I would ask him why, his answer was that he was afraid I would yell at him. I've always wondered what happened to him in his childhood that he seemed scarred and actually scared to death by this.
I welcome everyone's thoughts and advice! I need help from all of those who have gone before me.
