GAL

[jt2007]

Talked to xh today, he wanted me to leave him alone. He goes between wanting that and wanting to see me.
Its agrevating me.
Today he says I need to be independent of him,, I was stay at home mom 16yrs. He was the black sheep of his family, I saw potential in him that he didnt..Supported an directed him to things he could do while taking care of home... now he thinks I did nothing and dont deserve anything we had together.
This is kind of his personaltiy flaw..he has always taken credit that belongs to others.
I over looked that part of him...because of other good things.

Now he is saying I need to be independant of him. He has gotten so high up on the horse that only place he has to go now is down. Not that i want that...but In a way know he is right .
I need to GAL

ONly prob is...I am not used to being alone. I didnt take anything from our marriage in the divorce.
He said that if I got a job and was independant had my own house and supported myself...then he might consider getting back together.

I dont know if that is just BS.
Either way I feel like making my own life is somehow breaking off and totally leaving our marrage...even though we are divorced...
We just signed the papers this month. But This has been going on for the past 7 months before we signed.

Im going to school , and that was "our" plan before this all started. So I have to finish ...but Im not sure how to start a differnt life..and not feel like Im betraying our marrage still.
He wants me to give him what he already has...money from me...to give him relief from worring about losing he job all the time. I of course am not at his level...my focus was on him and my kids all these years. He has everything, house kids and the $$. I let him and didnt fight, I know how big of a responsibility it was , and hesaid it was easy, he is suffering now,, and I hate watching my kids suffer with him. But he is still being stubobrn telling me that I was everything wrong. Because I didnt have a career like he does NOW>

I dont know how to start or go forward without them I dont feel comfortalbe doing things just for myself...im used to doing it for "the family"...This feels so wrong to me, and I feel so pathetic looking at myself. and his words hurt.

I dont Know how to Get a life while leaving my family alone.