I don't think anybody should go by stats when making life choices and fighting for what they want and believe in. Even if we only followed stats, well, that doesn't mean we can't "beat" the stats. I simply am saying to be realistic and focus on you (generally speaking) because nobody can control what another person learns, thinks, feels or wants.
We all learn from each other's situations and that is a good thing. But reading situation after situation for two plus years you sort of see patterns that are not unique. The unfortunate aspect of that is the LBS in the pattern doesn't see what is "real" until much later. It's a wonderful yet terrible lesson to have to learn.
I wish everybody that wanted to save & rebuild their marriage could but that is not a realistic wish. Heck, I wish I could have saved and rebuilt my marriage but eventually my H had to desire that as well and the lure of the OW has remained two strong for too long. Of course, there are other strong factors such as guilt and pride that often dictate life choices when they shouldn't.
