I agree Citygirl, 100%. And I dont like glossing things over either. It's just that, if we all believe the stats, that odds are against us, then we should all pack up and leave this forum.
Realistic, smart to realise when the war is lost and knowing when it is a battle we lost or the war. I could have been divorced 2 years now if it wasnt for my belief things could change and for this forum. There were a number of times I felt I was a tiny step away from the end.I could have easily made different choices and would have been over at surviving by now, planning a life ahead without my H. Have you ever watched "slidding doors"? Such a great movie about how moments can change our future. There isnt ONE way ahead, we have to daily decide between crossroads. I figured, for me, it works best when I stop and think of how things will play out following each choice.
