He has been posting here less than 20 days and you're suggestion dating?
You don't see this as a recipe for a bad outcome?
Formerly, you're pretty vulnerable right now. You date and some chick shows you some play, you'll likely end up making several mistakes.
You do that, and you justify her affair in her cotton filled head.
You run the risk of hurting someone who doesn't deserve it.
And just as important, depending on the type of person you are, you might not feel to good about yourself.
Counter intuitive for DBing...by the book is not to be clingy, demanding, confrontation, begging...all that crap. No where does it say Date to make them jealous.
He needs to boost his confidence. He's clinging to a woman who is currently having an affair, and you're right, no where does it say in DB'ing to date and make them jealous. But let's look at that dynamic, regardless if he wants to admit it or not, he's jealous of the OM, that guy has his wife and he doesn't. The OM isn't pursuing his wife, I'll bet a few bucks that his wife is pursuing the OM. He separated from his wife to give her the space that she wanted and all that did was enable her current ways. Instead of pursuing his wife which just makes her run in the opposite direction, why not move in the opposite direction. If jealousy makes him DB his heart out which is what's happening lately, what would happen if he appeared to be doing the same thing to her? She currently has him and she knows it, if she told him she wanted to work on the marriage tomorrow, he would jump on that opportunity. He's the safe, 2nd option, the backup plan, just in case the affair doesn't work out. Who wants that for themselves? I know I don't, all that would lead to is the same thing happening all over again.
