I never posted to you before, but what you wrote about reading something that affected you, "did" something to me...
First, allow me to introduce myself: I have been in this mess for 3 years, separated from my H for 2, he had an affair with a woman for 3 years that was/probably is, determined to build a life with him, he went all the way AWAY from me, he fell deeply in love with her, did things and made choices that I would have never thought him capable of, I detached and fell in love with a great man and...now we are now trying to reconcile. I dont know if we will make it, but finally I got my second chance. That is all I asked for.
I dont care what anybody says, I understand why people can be negative, I was too, I dont care if most cases here arent gonna have a happy ending, I only know that nobody knows which one WILL have a happpy ending (apart from some "weird" cases sometimes I cant believe they are true).
So, my point is, dont get discouraged. Have faith, not in "making it" , in yourself. Focus on yor goal, be strong, be PATIENT, and do your best. Nothing goes wasted. For me it has been the most intense period of my life for many reasons. I cant even imagine where we would be at if this had not occured. I second guess my choices often and I cant claim there wasnt much unnessecary pain. But it happened. And life has twists and turns nobody can predict.
If we dont make it, I will be (eventually) sleeping with a smile on my face. I havent read your sitch and forgive me for appearing out of nowhere. My advice is to keep your eyes on your goal and be smart. Listen to people but filter everything. Balance your heart and your mind and you will be fine. This isnt a sprint, it is a long, difficult marathon. Nobody can promise you will make it to the "other" side, nobody can predict you will not. Good luck K
