But your challenge to this reasoning is a good one.. he won't limit himself, but few OW are satisfied having sex with soemone's WS unless they were told he was NOT sleeping with his wife anymore.. its a spin on the exposure theory.
Rather than exposing teh affair to his family and friends, you expose the husband cheating on his mistress to the mistress... its a bit different, but I agree most OW would not tolerate being lied to.. and yes I would think most men would like and say they aren't having sex with thier wife anymore.
Interesting way to look at it, Allen. You always make me think!
I'd be in favor of this, if . . . IF . .. the betrayed spouse can view this dispassionately as a TACTIC, and use it to their advantage, without letting it get in the way of their detachment.
I think VERY few can actually pull that of, and most go all "melty man/woman" on ya, and lose their edge, in my experience.
