I trusted again. I trusted again just to have that trust thrown away.
And in a new R, I am trusting again. Sure it is hard as hell, it is scary, but you know what?
It is more than worth it.
Bradley,
I don’t really see you standing. I see you martyring yourself.
You are not really doing the work yet. Not really.
You are still stuck in the “world according to Bradley”.
You haven’t even yet really committed to standing or not standing…
You have committed to seeing what your W is doing and responding in some fashion…
OP asked you, and your answer was not really satisfactory to me…
So I will put it the way I put it to your buddy Eric yesterday…
If your W was in an institution…
And you had no idea if or when she was going to get well…
HOW would you live YOUR life?
Yes, waiting for a time to see if she gets better I am sure…
But WHAT would you be doing with yourself and your time?
Sitting there and feel sorry for yourself because she was sick, and maybe never coming home? And constantly focusing on what you were not getting from her?
Or pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and make the best of what was in your life at the time, and possibly actually finding ways to make yourself better? While hoping and praying that she would recover…knowing that she may not, and that maybe SOMEDAY you would have to deal with that part of it, but not today…
You are way to worried about the outcome of your marriage…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
