"All rise"

[Bworl]

FIB,

I pray to God above that this settlement actually takes place. At the same time, I truly wish that the fates would smile on all LBS's and you would suddenly be given a new judge who found adultery repugnant and had no trouble seeing through the thinly veiled manipulations of your stbx and her lawyer. Lord what I would not give to see them get a serious tongue lashing and all their requests rejected.


Now then my friend...


I try not to wish ill will on anyone so do not misunderstand what I'm about to say.


This woman is going to have an incredibly painful time at some point down the line. I know you were not perfect - none of us are. I also know that you have become a role model for many in how to handle tremendous adversity with grace and dignity. You have shown all of us how to care more about others than yourself. And you have definitely given each of us a great snapshot of how to be a loving, caring, and protective father.


Your stbx is not a stupid woman. She is mean, spiteful and vindictive, but she is not stupid. At some point, after the raw-ness of these proceedings have passed, after both of you have had some time apart, after she no longer feels the need to keep her claws bared 24/7...she is going to begin realizing what she has walked away from.


Think of the men she has aligned herself with as your situation unfolded. None of them anywhere close to being men of character. All of them manipulators and predators. No matter how tough a state she has been in, no one wants to live like that forever.


Eventually she will remember the home you had together. She will remember the trips you took together. She will remember the pride that came with having a husband who was a surgeon, who healed people. She will remember the man, flaws and all, who fought for his marriage until he couldn't take rejection and betrayal any longer.


And damn it Frank, she is going to hurt.



It is my prayer that she has that moment, and that she has it sooner rather than later.


(and before you get ready to clobber me) NOT because I think she's going to want you back...NO. But because I think once that moment comes, maybe then she will at least find the ability to live in peace with you. Maybe you will find her more accomodating with the kids and other things.



It's time for your ordeal to end. I pray this recent negotiation is legitimate.


Blessings,

Bill