No, it is a rare marraige where 100% of the blame lies on one person.
No, I am certain she has done some wrongs and reacted not her best to situations. I sure she has done some grievous things.
She may not yet be "enlightened" (for lack of a better term) as too other ways to communicate and act in a marriage.
Show your new ways and she will follow in the changes also Positive changes bring positive results
I promise that 100%
It will take time, longer than you may want but she will notice your efforts and make mental note of them (quietly, secretly). She will notice, trust me.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)