Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[june72]

OK, skimming quickly- you need to read She comes first by Kerner ASAP. Women are absolutely and completely embarrasses to admit-
1. That they might possibly takes care of "things" by themselves
2. What they specifically need in sex
Beyond embarrassing! With her different culture, I would only imagine it would be worse for her.
OK, embriologically (sp?)speaking the clitoris and penis are the same- the penis continues to grow and the clitoris stops growing. So think of her clit as the penis. Ian Kerner states that foreplay is "coreplay" for women.

I'll be blunt- actual intercourse is like the icing on the cake- The foreplay is everything for women. What you see in porn is all mostly acting. Women do not enjoy- 2 minutes of kissing and then straight to full blown intercourse. Most women only get clitoral orgasms.

So, honestly, you are going to have to educate yourself here and really experiment with her. Make it your mission several nights to put actual intercourse off the table but just massages, exploring and some foreplay. Focus on only her and figure out how she ticks. I am telling you it is the hardest thing on the planet for most women to say "I like this, I like that" that in the bedroom. Sorry.

No you can't ask her to wear nice clothes or improver her appearance now. That has to wait till you do some repair work. If you give her enough positive feedback and reinforcement she may do that on her own. Hold off on that for now.


Yes, she will stonewall your attempts for some time. Expect it. You see she wants you to win her own. She wants you to prove your love and sincerity for her. Expect it for sure.