Is this piecing?

[flowmom]

H4L, my H was an involved father but he'd just drop the ball/lose it because of being tired/angry. A lot of it was simmering rage at me. Now that he can be with the kids without me being around, he can focus on them (I hope!!).

I'm glad to see that you're seeing progress with parenting. It's interesting about the psychic changes. I do believe that intention has very powerful effects. I don't believe that it operates on a supernatural level, I think that we communicate so much non-verbally, including our wishes and expectations. That is why our thoughts and mindset are so critical.

Why is housework a M issue for your H? He doesn't even live there...what's the issue? My H made a comment about a mess once since the separation and I called him on it...Maybe that's something to set a boundary about: "unless you choose to live here with an open heart, this is not your home and you're not entitled to comment on how I keep it".