hi, dianamo. i don't have any children, so i have no parenting experience. my SIL is 14 and very interested in sex, so i have tried to talk openly to her about it before but you really can't tell a teenage girl what to do these days.
it's wonderful that she feels close enough to you to say those things. i'm 30 and MARRIED (well, for now) and i STILL can't talk to my mother about sex. so i think it's great that she would even come to you and let you know when she thought she was ready. trying to talk her out of having sex probably would have the opposite effect. you know she is educated on the issues (pregnancy and STDs), and she is with a boy that she loves and has been with for a long time (for that age, especially!!).
do you not want her to have sex because you are morally against it or because you are panicked by the idea of your "little girl" becoming sexually active? do you like the boyfriend?
personally, i was 18 before i had sex for the first time, and it was a good time for me. i felt like i was ready. what else would you like to say to your daughter? you know she loves this boy. you know she is being honest with you. i probably would have been a LOT more open with my mom had i ever felt i could talk to her like your daughter talks to you. growing up for me, sex was something people did when they were married...i think i was 13 or 14 before i realized that it was physically POSSIBLE to have sex outside of marriage (thank you, catholic school sex education!!). she seems like she has her head on straight and in all honesty, you can't really stop her. show her that you trust her by letting her make her own choices. and remember your own experiences, too!
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless
