Thanks FM I am very glad this is true for you and I'm sure in that way it is a blessing. Am I correct in remembering that your H wasn't that involved of a father before he left?
What can I say. I only know what I see. When I'm not here I don't know what is happening. Yes my H is a very involved father and always has been. IMO he has become a much worse father since the separation - he sees his son less, he is less reliable, his temper is much more out of control. Perhaps that only happens when I'm around but it's what I've seen.
That said, there was a good breakthrough in that area. One thing that has been bothering me is how my H yells at my S all morning to get him going to school. Last night, H came to me and said he has a new tactic. He said he is going to play "Scooby Doo" to get S motivated for school. I noticed H using a more playful tone instead of angry. It was wonderful.
Strangely, this came the same day I spoke to the L who recommended parenting classes for H. I swear sometimes they are psychic!
He was also still critical of me, but in a less demanding tone if that makes sense. He said he feared the housework was slipping and he blames the theatre - I stood up for myself and said that everyone in this house has been sick for a week - including me - but I did notice he tried to keep his tone light.
They are small babysteps but they mean a lot to me.
