That's right - screwed up as it might be, it is hard to get past. Now for me, if when I can't take care of her needs it hurts just as much. I need to feel that we are both satisfied. For her, she's done in that avg 10 min window. It is me that takes too long. That signals the lack of attraction problem. I think that is part of the reason attraction is an issue to her.
I've told her that if I want to be with her, that should be be enough. Why isn't it?
