Is this piecing?

[flowmom]

H4L, I don't know your H. But I'm going to ask you to question whether your S is unsafe with your H. Is that really true? Yes, your H has behaved badly both on his own and in front of your S. But IME, my H has become a better father in some ways since he started taking the kids on his own since the separation. He's doing some things wrong but he also realizes that he is flying solo without me there to guide and support him as he's used to. He knows I won't be there to emotionally rescue everyone if he flies into a rage. Or that the kids still need his care and attention if he doesn't get enough sleep. I can tell that your H takes his role as a father very seriously. It is a huge compromise on his part to have been spending time with your S in your home even when he hasn't wanted to deal with the M or you.

I know that I have to deal with my fears about how this is affecting the children in IC. It's too big for me to handle on my own, and there is a lot of stuff there. My own baggage clouds my vision.

When it comes to H taking the kids, I have to keep coming back to trust. He is a loving father and he is THEIR father.

hugs to you...I hope you feel better today