"All rise"

[faithisbelieving]

June..thank you for your kind comments. I think, sometimes, I will be bitter about people like you who WERE able to save their marriages (you know what I mean when I say that, I am actually happy for you). Bitter in the sense that STBXW couldn't/wouldn't/didn't.

That was then June. The woman I am with now I could never live with again. It's an amazing thing to look at what 12-16 months can do to a person. 2 years ago STBXW expressed sadness about me NOT coming to Easter. Now, she would back over me with her car if she couldn't get caught.

On the bright side, finally, this may REALLY be over.

Their issues:

• STBXW wanted CS to start on signing WHILE she still lived in the house. She wanted a 'nest egg' to start. L argued that CS is NOT for a nest egg, it is for the children
• Her L threatened to file another motion for more court costs

Our issues:

• STBXW would walk away without any debt and heap all of it onto me. L threatened to bring all my debt into play now including backtaxes as marital debt (a heavy hit to her)
• Paying full CS while STBXW lived in the house was ridiculous and would force me into being a deadbeat dad by inability to pay
• STBXW, would walk away from this with 45% of house yet her L continues to heap on court fees to me while STBXW could pay him from that

STBXW's L called today and wants to settle. I gave L permission for the following:

• Her L agreed to eat court costs if I added $2500 to my previously court ordered judgment (the contempt thingey)
• STBXW would get half the CS weekly until she moves out, supposedly in May
• maintenance is still waived

So..there you go. Will it fly this time? Only you all can guess. I think STBXW has another man cooking out there hence a new urgency to settle. Late nights, tight jeans, knee high boots, teeth whitening strips, etc. That's OK. His problem.

FIB