I tend to wonder if people in their second marriage are more apt to reconcile than people in their first marriage. While it is the most awful thing I have ever been through, divorce is so widely accepted it is very "normal" to be divorced. I think that is why first marriages are less likely to be restored. With a second marriage you have been "round the block" so to speak and may see things in a different way and have experience that first timers don't have.
I also think younger people are less likely to reconcile as they feel they still "have time" to start a second life.
I often wonder if some WAS have a small desire to reconcile but have told so many lies to so many people they know coming clean would be too much. My H lied to his friends, family and co-workers about our separation being mutual and his affair. In order for anything to happen he would need to come clean and he never would do that. He has told me that.
