Oh boy, Brad. The first thing you have to decide is, what do you want?
I dont mean the marriage. I dont mean the job. I mean, what do you want for you?
Here's the thing about all this. If we are lucky, we learn on this journey. How much we learn depends on us.
There are many important things that you hopefully learn. But to me, the most important one is that no one else can make us happy.
Only we can do that. When you begin to learn that happiness comes from inside, not from a spouse, not from a job, but deep inside, you will be able to figure out the other stuff.
So, forget about the whatifs, because they will kill ya. And try to figure out how to make yourself happy.
I am assuming being near your kids will. I am assuming that in a job market like we are in, you are thankful to have a job in the field of your choice. I am assuming that you are healthy and have enough money to live on.
I'm thinking, anything past that should be icing on the cake.
So, start looking at the icing. What makes you happy? Take one little thing and do more of it. Really get into it.
Then do something else. And soon, you have a full life regardless of what your wife is doing.
Sieze the day, my friend. Be thankful. Let things go. Move forward.
