I will chime in here. I was a LBS. My W was in an affair and truly believed she was on her way out (never to come back). We seperated. She believed she was about to start a new life with her new man, he believed that too. Truthfully, I never fully believed it myself (call it denial).
However, something happened. On the trip with OM to start their shiny new lives together, she realized she missed her old life. She changed her mind about the direction she was taking with her life. She changed her mind.
We are working through our issues. But I am extremely happy with her change of heart and mind. I know it doesn't always happen that way. In fact I probably am in the minority. But it does happen.
Not everyone on this board will save their marriages. But not all the marriages are hopeless either.
One thing is certain though. If you follow peoples advice here; you will eventually find a sense of control and happiness in your life no matter what happens.
